Defining oneself as an alcoholic is an interesting and life changing moment.
The word can allow for streams of excuses and destructive behaviour. No responsibility ever need be taken, one can just drown in the sorrows and be dammed. A victim, no way forward.
Alternatively, the recognition of the problem, the ability to give it a name and from there to take on recovery can be the point at which everything changes.
For some, recovery, getting sober, is a decision, though not taken lightly, that is made once, and from there all manner of experiences issue from the experience which change your life indescribably. Certainly this was the case for me.
For others, getting sober is a battle. A real fight, falling back, getting up again, endless repeating cycles of shame and destruction, until hopefully one day, the light comes on, the mantle of grace descends and life changes.
Recovery is not simple and soft. It is not an easy route through life. As I write I am over 25 years sober and I love my life, I love my recovery, I hate 24/7 conscious awareness. I do. I can be loathed and berated for my truth, but sometimes it is too much. But I would not pass it up, ever.
Alcoholism is an awful disease. Do it’s routes lie in nature or nurture? Can we pass it on to our children? Do we inherit it or did it find us?
For one person it can be delirium tremens and liver failure that brings recovery to our feet. For another it can be so much unbearable self-loathing that the pain of endlessly trying to run away from the suffering through drinking finally becomes enough. For another it can be just seeing where there drinking is heading and knowing that it is time to stop.
The stories are sad, filled with shame, hilarious, wild, mad, extreme…. And pretty much anyone tainted by the illness tends to be bright, intelligent, and highly capable once sober.
There is no stereotype alcoholic apart from in movies, the effects of alcohol upon the body are easy to look into. I will not indulge here, but one scary statistic that has always stayed with me is that only 4% of men survive the disease and only 3% of women do.
Putting down the alcohol may not reverse all the damage done to the body, the nervous system and the thinking processes, but there is a huge amount you can do to regain health, mental clarity, emotional stability and freedom from active addiction.
Over the pages on this website you will find a wealth of information for recovery. Tools, postures, dietary advice, meditations and much, much more.
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